Family: I have mention previously that I am lucky to married to my wonderful wife Wendi and we have 3 children together and she has one from a previous marriage. For now I’ll hold their names back, but we have 2 girls ages 14 and 8, and 2 boys ages 6 and 4. So yes we are extremely busy and always on the move.
I also mentioned that I have been seeing a therapist. I started for many reasons, my psychiatrist recommended it, I needed an outlet for my new “life” with OT, and I was having anger issues. Now, the anger issues started before my diagnosis, I have a tendency to yell first and think second, but it definitely became worse after diagnosis. My therapist and I think I have made good strides in recognizing triggers and my responses before it starts. You’ll have to ask my wife if that really is true!!!
After I was off work for a while, we thought it was a good idea to let everyone know what was going on with me. My wife obviously knew about my diagnosis and was and still may be in denial a little bit. She was also very scared about me and the kids. My oldest step-daughter, was and is very worried about me. She is very emotional and has been very supportive for me as far as helping me on bad days or just watching to see how I act. My younger daughter has a decent understanding about what’s going on, but she’s still young and doesn’t really get what my disease is although she knows daddy can’t stand in one spot very long. The two boys were just happy to have daddy around the house more, at least most days, and my youngest every once in a while will ask “daddy are you still shaky?”.
My diagnosis has certainly changed my life and no doubt has changed my family’s life. Most for the worse, I’m unemployed with only unemployment compensation coming in while I wait for lawyers and big business to decide what to do with me. But, some for the better. I have gotten to spend a lot more time with my kids and my wife. That has truly been a blessing in all of this.
My life and my family’s lives will never be the same, but I’m not saying that’s a bad thing. We all had to change and most of the change was for the better. We are a stronger family unit with faith back into ours lives. My kids are learning about how to live on a tighter budget. And, dad gets to help more with homework!!!!
My family is my life and I never really discussed my parents or her parents or our extended family. We’ll save that for another day. It took a debilitating disease to slow me down enough to realize the important things in life and how precious every day can be. Tomorrow is never a guarantee and you never know what’s waiting for you around the corner. Make every day count or you may miss some amazing things!
Have a fantastic day and God bless,