Amazing

I find people to be amazing!  Most of them in a good way.  I’m always amazed and moved when people who I haven’t seen in years, message me or go out of their way to ask me in person how I’m doing.

I know I claim to be an advocate for Orthostatic Tremor.  Next week will truly give me an opportunity to take my words into action.  Myself and dozens of others will be in Omaha, Nebraska for clinical trials and or tests for OT.  I plan on not only writing about my experiences daily, but also to be listening to the people of  whom I have made connections with on Facebook and Twitter.  I hope there a chance for me to be a part of some sort of leadership in the western Pennsylvania, Ohio, West Virginia area.  I don’t know if it will happen, but I know I can’t do it alone.  I need help from OT suffers and quote unquote normal people.  I have received many requests to share what is happening in Omaha with those who can not make the trip. As I said I will certainly do that, but I want questions that you have as well.  To help be the voice of many, I must listen to voices of the few.

So don’t be afraid.  Write me, text me, tell me if I’m heading in the right direction.  Someone needs to really stand up and shout out to the masses about our struggle.  I’m not sure if it should be me, but I am eager to give it a shot.

Thank you for reading, commenting, and sharing our message.  As always may God bless you!

Matt

You never know

Not every post has to be paragraphs long, with tremendous insight.  I’m trying to help the Orthostatic Tremor community, with the help of God, by reaching one person at a time.  One conversation, one email, one text, one blog at a time.  You never know what can happen by opening yourself up, to let others in.

One thought, one heart, one smile, one kindness, and a lot faith….you never know.

God bless!!

Matt

 

Trust, with Orthostatic Tremor

Trust is a word that seems to get thrown around quite a bit.  “I don’t trust the way he’s looking at me.”  “I don’t know what it is, but I just don’t trust him.” We have trust issues with our family, with our friends, with the world around us. The older you get the more people you are exposed to, the more you have to decide who to trust or not.  Your boss, your coworkers, your doctor, your therapist, your lawyer, even your priest, minister, pastor, Rabbi, etc….

When you have a disease that is a rare as OT, trust becomes exponentially important.  First, your primary doctor has probably never heard of OT.  70-80% of Neurologists have never had a patient with OT.  The ones that have certainly had no idea of a cure or very little ability to help the symptoms. Because it’s so rare, very little if any research money goes towards OT. When my Neurologist, who actually has 3 patients with OT, goes to a conference and the only research group is one from Florida who tested magnetic therapy on a study group size of less than 25, which some of you were involved in, comes back from it and basically says you’re screwed!  There’s just no money to be made because of the limited sample sizes.  That’s one of the reasons I like and trust my Neurologist.  He gives me straight answers, is willing to try anything and work with anyone who may have information.  Me being a Pharmacist has led to some interesting combinations and dosages…none that have really worked significantly for the tremors.

So who do you trust?  Do you trust the population that really can’t tell you have a very debilitating disease unless they look very hard?  Do you trust employers who blow off your illness when a chair, stool or even something to lean on helps?  Do you trust insurance companies who again have most often never heard of the disease and really have to do some digging to find limited knowledge before they deny a claim? How about a legal system that works at a snail’s pace at sorting through all the “documents and research findings” for a “small” hourly rate?

So, who do you trust?  My answer in my very short (1 year), but seemingly lifetime of experience with OT is, I don’t know.  It’s very hard to trust anyone who can’t feel the effects of OT on your body or your mind.  No offense to anyone at any age, but when someone looks at me, a 41-year-old, 6 foot 3 inch man, in relatively good shape, they most often never give me a second look.  That is until they see me standing “still”, or leaning on a wall or grocery cart. I believe that even my family at times gets sick and tired of people asking me how I’m feeling.  My family is very supportive, but you know it happens to us all.

The bottom line is that I still have to use my gut feelings to sort out who I trust and pray and hope for better times.  The praying in the one pure thing I can trust, because it makes me feel better and I know it will always be there for me to lean on.  Let’s hope that those of us able to go to Nebraska later this year will come home with more trust and hope.

Thank you so much for reading, and for sharing my story.  I wish a great rest of the week for you, and as always God bless!!

Matt

 

 

 

 

What is wrong and what is right in this world.

If you turn on the TV, open a newspaper, turn on your laptop or smart phone, you’re bound to see all the negativity that the media, “fake” or not tries to shove down our throats.  Oh don’t get me wrong, every once in a while you get a feel good story about someone defying the odds and beating a terminal illness, or more likely a dog saving a deer from drowning.  Every day the same cycle, this side blasting that side and vice versa.  I for one am totally done with all of it.  These so-called elite 1 percenters that run everything need a dose of reality and morality.

I for one don’t care about Trump and the Russians.  I don’t care about this person or that person rigging an election that was 8 months ago.  I do care about people who have jobs, to do their jobs, whether they are the President of the United States or a person making minimum wage at Walmart.  I for one have been searching for a new job for months since my former employer terminated me because I was scared and devastated about a life long debilitating disease.  I’m not supposed to say that I’m sure.  Always finding a way to use my voice against me.

Let me tell you what I know is right with world.  I am certain that we live in an amazing time, with limitless possibilities.  This blog alone is read by hundreds of people all around the world.  I am so touched and moved by the support and encouragement that I receive on a regular basis.

People in general are good and nice and sincere.  Most just want to do what they have to do to support themselves or their families.  Why cant the elite who have the power to help everyone do that not just talk and debate over issues, but actually solve problems.  Our best and brightest, sure thing.  Same thing in big corporations, local government, and everything else where there is money involved.  Oh if I ever knew then what I now know, what changes I would make.  I’m not supposed to write this blog any more because maybe I just phrase something the wrong way or people take blurbs of it out of context.

I am an advocate for Orthostatic Tremor!!  I was put in this situation to rock the boat and gain awareness for a terrible disease that some wonderful people have the misfortune of having.  This is not for me, this is for all of us!  More money, more research and more people to give a damn about people in need.  We have a story to tell, and I will do my best to make sure it gets told.

Thank you for reading.  PLEASE share this, and as always God Bless!!

Matt

Friendship

How many true friends do you have?  Someone who is not there to judge you, someone who will stick with you through the good and the bad?  As we in the States get ready to celebrate our Independence Day with our family and friends, I got to thinking about this topic.

I’m a fairly outgoing person.  I will talk to just about anyone.  I have a lot of people who I am friendly with, but I wouldn’t call them if I was really in trouble.  I’ve said before, having an illness opens your mind to many things that you really take for granted.  My father, whom not only is a fantastic Dad is also a great friend, always tells me that family is the only ones you can truly trust.  I get what he’s saying, but man I hope that’s not true.  I have a hand full of friends that I know would give me the shirt off their back if I was really in trouble.

It has a occurred to me recently that I haven’t been the greatest of friend in the same way.  I don’t stay in touch with people like I ought to.  I’m not the one to initiate a get together or even a phone call.  I have a tendency to isolate myself at times, not just with friends, but with family too.  It took me a long time and a lot of self-realization for me to figure out that not just me, but all of us need support to get through life, illness or not.  Life is hard!  Man is it hard!  But, the more people you let in, the easier it can become.

I plan on making a very concerted effort to reach out to the close friends I have and the ones that I have let slip away.  I challenge you to do the same this holiday and moving forward.  Our creator meant for us to be together and live life free and with joy.  That’s a lot easier to do with more friends around us.

Have a great 4th of July.  Thank you for reading and sharing, and as always God bless!!

Matt

Humor and Humility

First off I would like to wish every Dad a Happy Father’s day!!  I know how special and important my father has been in my life.  I wouldn’t be half the man who I am today without him.

I have often said that I rarely pray for myself when it comes to my disease.  That is absolutely still true, but I do pray for three things to strive to achieve every day: patience, peace, and humility.

The patience part is two-fold.  One, patience with OT that is chronically always with me, and secondly, patience with my wife, children and everyone that I come in contact with.  I know how I feel and think, but no one else really does in my immediate circle.  Patience.

Peace is exactly what you would think it would be, peace in my heart, in mind and in my soul, so I am able to survive and thrive everyday.  Peace.

Then comes humility.  I have said countless times that I want to be the voice for people with Orthostatic Tremor.  It would be a great honor for me to achieve this.  It some respects​ this has happened to a small degree.  I have a fairly successful blog and made countless new relationships with people from all around the world.  So I pray for humility, that if the good Lord chooses me to be that voice, that I never take it for granted.  Now, believe me, I have no desire to become famous, but to be the voice for something this important requires a bit of confidence and maybe a bit of arrogance.  Humility, remember why I started this.  Humility.

That ties into part two of the title, humor.  Just recently an extremely close member of my family has been hospitalized going on 10 days with a very serious, potentially dangerous condition. It will be a long, but I believe a successful recovery.  It harkens me back to the days 11 plus years ago, when I lost my sister to cancer.  Right up to the very end, when it got extremely bad, she had the greatest sarcastic humor of anyone​ I’ve ever been around, even myself.  A lot of people can be put off by this type of humor, but I absolutely love it.  If you can’t make or have fun with the people closest to you, not to the point of humiliation, then you will never make it through the hard times in life.

There will always be hard times in life, whether you have an illness or not.  But if you can find humor in everyday life and even make a point seeking it out, your attitude and outlook will be so much better.  Life is so much easier with a light and humourous attitude.  Believe you me, I really go out my way to find humor or make fun of something or someone.  Not in a mean and condescending way, but just to find the joy and beauty in life.  Go out and live and laugh and enjoy the gifts you have received, even if you don’t know it.

Thank you for reading.  Please share with everyone you know and as always God bless!!

Matt

Perspective

Update on ketone-diet.  4 to 5 weeks in.  Helps with energy levels and weight loss or maintaining current weight, with exercise of course.   No effect on the OT tremor.  I will continue the diet, just because I actually like it.  I like the way it’s basic metabolic premise works.  No more updates though, because of the lack of tremor results.  There are plenty of diet/weight loss blogs you can follow.

With the recent terroristic attacks around the world, I thought it would be a good idea to add a little perspective to my life and my mission on this earth.  I still and always will believe that God has given me the mission to be the voice for the voiceless in the fight and awareness against OT.  I will be  heading to Nebraska this fall for a serious of trials, headed by the University of Nebraska.  It will be the first time that I will be able to see face to face people like me.  Hopefully I can make the connections to allow my blog, my message and the recognition on my disease to flourish.  I do appreciate all the sharing of tweets and Facebook shares that I’m getting, but quite frankly it’s not enough.

I realize that most of you have your own problems and worries in your lives.  I just choose to put mine out there in a public forum.  The only reason for this is because there are so few of us OT patients out there.  By natural personality, I have become very outspoken recently in writing and in public or personal conversations.  Oh, the things that I would like to write on this blog.  But, I don’t for two good reasons.  1.  It may hurt me and my family personally.  2.  It’s just not the right thing to do.

People and communities all around the world face devastating issues and challenges that would never compare to mine.  Terrorist attacks, famine, poverty, oppression, natural disaster.  These are the issues that should be front in center in everyone’s lives.  Sadly, even these events can not bring people to action.  I get it, people have their families to worry about, their finances to worry about, their own lives to worry about.  I have my family of six to worry about also, but if you are not active in this world, the plain honest truth is that you are part of the problem and just taking up space.

We were put on this Earth by our creator to live, love and help each other.  If you are involved in helping people around the world, around your community, or just the person in front of you in the checkout line, you are truly doing what I believe is all of our purpose in this world.  Just remember even if you live to be 100, you are still merely a blip on the radar screen in the grand scheme of things.  But, if people remember how many people you helped, then your legacy is secured.  Not only by your family and friends, but maybe by your community or perhaps the whole world.  Jesus said that the greatest of all of the commandments was to love the Lord with all your heart.  But the second greatest was to love your neighbor as yourself.  With all the uncertainty around the world, how much better would we be by just following those to simple morals of life?

Please share my messages, give me feedback, love yourself and your neighbor, because you both deserve it.  Have an impactful week and as always God bless!!

Matt

 

The Mind

Do you remember that public service announcement that ran in the late 80s and 90s for teenage drug use?  The tag line was ” A mind is a terrible thing to waste”.  As I’ve gotten older and experienced a more complicated life, I have used that phrase in a different way.  I changed it to ” A mind is a terrible thing”.

Now the brain itself is probably the most interesting and wonderful objects that God has created.  Capable of brilliant ideas and concepts.  To think most of us use only about 10% of our brain’s possible potential is just a mind-boggling, excuse the pun, concept to me.  So why do I describe it as a terrible thing?  Because when left to its own devices, whether your alone and thinking or just zoned out in front of the television, your mind can produce some pretty serious “conspiracies”  or alternate realities.

It can take the most innocent situation and turn it into some pretty bad scenarios.  The fact that the amount of people who have some sort mental illness increase every year is a testimony to that fact.  Now whether you were born with these problems, developed them as you have aged, or experienced some sort of trauma or illness, they can be seriously detrimental to not only to a healthy lifestyle, but can be a monumental hill to climb to overcome in any difficult situation.  They way our conscious mind can twist actual reality has always amazed me.  And don’t forget the people who are always right and claim to have no issues whatsoever.  They are ones that probably are the least mentally healthy people we have walking among us.   Hence my adaptation to an old PSA.  I’m really not sure if this a modern society problem or if this has been hardwired into humans from birth.   I imagine that it is more environmental than genetic.

The amount of ” downtime” people have today due to technology is staggering.  You may say, not me, I’m constantly on the go, no time to think or stop at all.  Really?  How many times do you check your iPhone for text messages, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, email?  That is your downtime.

Imagine now that you have a chronic illness or disease that leaves you almost immobile, alone or literally trapped in your own head.  Your own brain can actually kill you slowly day by day, minute, hour by hour, until you are just a glimmer of what you were created to be.

So what’s the solution?  Well if I knew that I wouldn’t be writing this.  Certainly surrounding yourself with family and friends is always a big help.  Faith and relationship with God.  Reading or listening to positive ideas and messages certainly can help.  Exercise, sport, hobbies and even work and career are great distractions to the terrible things your mind can do to you.

Mental illness and chronic illness go hand in hand most of the time if you do not have a strong network of people around you.  Chronic illness patients need to be embraced by their communities if they have any hope to overcome or just get through the next day.  Compassion is an amazing human capacity that we are all born with.  Whether you choose to use it is up to you.  Choose wisely, because you never know when life will put place you on the opposite side of the equation.

Have a wonderful weekend, a three-day in the US.  Try to soften your heart and pay it forward.  As always, God bless!!

Matt

Constant challenges and disappointment

Keto diet update: 3 weeks in 13 lbs down.  Too soon to tell added effects.

Everyone on this planet has constant daily challenges or struggles.   I don’t care if you are totally broke and alone or if you have more money than you could ever spend and are constantly surrounded by “friends”.  These struggles could be mental, fiscal, or physical.  A lot of these challenges end in disappointed, some end in great achievement, or some just continue and linger.  People with mental or physical disability, which I certainly would place OT in there, have these daily struggles also on top of dealing with added difficulty or stressors.

Does this make us want your pity or special attention?  In severe cases yes.  People with severe Physical and Mental disability are owed special treatment and should not be outcasts from society.  They have been through more than most will have to deal with in 1000 lifetimes.  For the rest of “us”, no. We just want a chance to live our lives, support ourselves and to contribute to society with all of our God-given talent.   In the end we are all people, and should be treated as fairly as anyone else.  Now if you are lazy, complacent, or just have the “why try, because nothing ever goes my way” attitude, then I have no time for you.

With daily struggles and challenges, come disappointment, failure and depression.  These are apart of life.  Show me a “successful person” and I will all but guarantee that there were many struggles and failures along the way.  No I’m not trying to be a cheerleader and say ” don’t worry, you’ll get em next time”.  No, rather I’m saying as soon as you stop trying, you stop living.  This world is difficult, I am reminded of that every day.  Nobody wakes up every morning with big smile on their face 365 days a year.  If there are some folks like that, they should probably be locked up.

I firmly believe that this life is a test.  A test of character, kindness, resiliency, and just being a pleasant person to be around.  If you make a lot of money, you should do many charitable works to help the less fortunate.  If you have a special talent, you should share them with the world.  If your cat can play the piano then you should show it on Facebook or YouTube!!  Because, life is to be savored and enjoyed.  In the end our physical selves all end up the same way.  The last I read there is only one person who defeated father time.

I often say to engage with people.  Say hi, be the annoying person on a plane who wants to talk while you just want sleep, I’m kidding, don’t be that person.  I’m just saying be apart of this world just not on it.  You may be amazed by the stories you hear or by the people you meet.

Enjoy what’s left of this weekend.  Live the week ahead, and as always God bless.

Matt

Every day seems the same

Have you ever felt like that?  How about the movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray.  A classic in its own right.

For the time being I’m not going to speak about my own personal experiences, but in generalities.  The reason, I won’t say, but if you think hard enough I’m sure you can figure out.  If you can’t, call me and I’ll spell it out for you without spelling it out.

I’m obviously in this position in my life now because I’ve been a horrible person to most people I’ve met.  Now you may say come on Matt, you’ve always have been a kind and caring person of others, or maybe your like, ” yeah, I always did hate that sob”.  The truth of the matter is that doesn’t matter that it’s happened to me.  This disease, this struggle, this blog is about me,  but also a whole lot more.  I will admit that I am a prideful person and will never, ever let someone denigrate my good name without a fight.  In fact some people may say that have lost my filter and the truth as I see it just comes rolling off my tongue.  But, this whole thing is so much bigger than me.  I have to remember why I’m doing this.  I’m writing for the voiceless.  For the people who struggle with OT everyday and don’t know what to do or where to turn.  I write for the people who don’t even know that have OT, because only 20-30% of all the neurologists in the world can properly diagnosis it.  This was, is my mission.  The more you share my writings, the more eyeballs see it, the more people are aware.  I mean come on you’ve shared way more stupid things than this.  If I was a cat or dog with OT, I’d probably have thousands of followers!! Don’t let today or tomorrow just be the same old day.  Because no one knows what tomorrow may bring.  It could be you or someone close to you asking for help.

So, I may write more often on one specific topic at a time and keep myself out of it for a while.  Trust me, I get tired of hearing about me too.  So share these blogs, not for me, but for the people who are me, but just don’t know it yet.  I may be a small fish in a big pond, but the more fish I can connect just might make a difference.

Thank you for reading.  Share, share, share!!!  Have a better tomorrow and as always, God bless!

Matt